I have a problem with job and income jealousy. Any advice?

I'm about one and a half years out of grad school. I have a good job, but it leads to nothing. I keep hearing about freinds from high school making six figures or opening businesses or just lucking into great jobs in great areas (I still live in the same town I grew up in). I get so jealous that I really want to kill myself. Is there a name for this complex or disorder that I have? How do I work on this? I know I would probably feel better if my job wasn't a dead-end, but no other companies seem interested. How do I feel better in the meantime??I have a problem with job and income jealousy. Any advice?
Sh1t man i used to get that too - it annoyed the hell out of me because friends i knew throughout uni and college who did no work whatsoever (to the point of dropping out and re-enrolling three times in three years!!) have walked into sweet well paid jobs and are earning more than me, whilst i worked my *** off at uni and have a decent enough job but not as good as theirs. Anywho i got over it because i came to the realisation that:





a) My friends probably wouldnt speak to me again if they found out how spoilt i was being.





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b) thinking about it all the time was turning me bitter.





With regard to the disorder thing - i dont think its a disorder, at least if it is its quite easy to get over.


In the meantime my suggestion would be to forget about your mates and concentrate on yourself, when you do this it becomes allot easier to see where you have gone wrong and what can be ammended. I did it and things got better very quickly.





It will be cool dude just froget about what your mates are doing and think about yourself.I have a problem with job and income jealousy. Any advice?
Suggestion is that you need to find a new job, one that you are proud of. It doesn't have to do with you being jealous of your friends job situation, it is just that you are unhappy in yours and need to move on.


I was in a similar situation with my sister-in-law - she barely graduated high school and is making $100K+ and VP in a company. I went out and found a new job that I am completely happy with and ended a the jealousy.
People choose different paths. If you have chosen a path that does not suit you, there is always a chance for a new beginning. Having anger or jealousy over others who are succeeding doesn't do you any good and will not help you achieve any goals of your own. Take some time and evaluate where you'd like to be in the next 10-20 years. Determine if your current path is going to lead you there. If it will not and you are unhappy with this assessment, the next logical step is to figure out what will get you there and take the first step toward it. Don't stop until you get what you want. By the time you get to where you want to be, you will have deserved it and your self-esteem will have improved well beyond where it sits now. Good luck and DON'T GIVE UP! Everybody is a winner until they decide to stay a loser.
Yes, I think there may be a name for it. It's called ';depression.'; I only say that because you seem to be so distraught that you expressed a desire to kill yoursef. If it's not depression, then maybe it's just a case of envy.





I like how you worded your question because you are more focused on how you are feeling about all of this, and you recognize that if you could just change that you would be better off all around. What that tells me is that you are not a completely shallow person just interested in making more money so that you can prove what a great person you are. I hate to sound so trite, but greatness doesn't come from what we have, but who we are. There have been many poor people in this world who are known for their greatness. Cliche' yes, but there must be something about you that you can focus on rather than your net income and assets.





In the meantime, you may also feel better if you just started on some sort of path to finding a better job if that's what you want. Getting your resume together and posting it online would be a step in the right direction and will make you feel as though your not just sitting idle. What seems to be bothering you the most is that you are unsure about your future, and that there is no promise or hope around the corner. You have to create the condition of hope in order for it to exist.





-BD
Just think about all they are giving up to have those jobs - less time with their families, being yoked to the business, probably not having a personal life, etc. They also have higher costs of living if they live in ';great areas';. I'd imagine that, figuring for the difference in cost of living, they don't actually make more than you do. They will be burnt out and stressed and having a mid-life crisis by 35. Sometimes simple is better.
As much as you think having a better job or making more money will make you happier, it won't. There'll always be something else to get you upset. And it's a waste of time to compare yourself to others. remember this quote i read somewhere: ';In a world of individuals, comparison makes no sense at all.';





Your time will come.
Get off your duff and find what you want. You have to take charge of your own future. If you don't like where you are, change it!!