True problem, I need advice, can you help?

My boyfriend's 11 year old brother will not clean his butt after he uses the bathroom. If you try and to tell at him or yell at him to do it he'll start crying. And he smells really bad when he's at school and at the house.





Grounding has helped either.True problem, I need advice, can you help?
He needs to see a counsellor about poor self esteem.True problem, I need advice, can you help?
where are his parents? he needs to be sat down and explained that he has to do it, and if he won't there is enough people that will, no body wants to smell that. some day the school can call child protection and report child neglect. is he mentally challenged? if not then hold him down and scrub his A**.
i used to babysit a kid that was much like that.





he may not feel comfortable wiping his behind on a few levels:


if you are not a guardian of this child then you should make it known to his parents, this kid may not know how to wipe his behind and may need someone to help show him how to do it, or the toilet tissue may be to rough for his behind, if that is the issue hand him some baby wipes to wipe his behind, it helps another reason may be that he may be afraid of his own manure, such as a phobia (COPROPHOBIA or CORPOROPHOBIA) if that is the case counseling could help. without yelling at him and forcing him to make effort simply ask him why he doesn't like to wipe his behind, there must be a reason from his point of view why he chooses not to do such a task. You shouldn't ground a child just because he wont or can't wipe his behind, instead of yelling and disciplining him you should encourage him.


Award him for wiping his behind, i know it sounds weird but when children are rewarded for petty things they tend to be more enthusiastic about getting task done.





You shouldn't be the one to be concerned about it, it is his parents calling. But it is thoughtful that you are looking out for the welfare of this child.
make sure it's just not a cleaning issue... it could be a medical problem... chronic constipation with frequent stool loss around his stool plug.. neurological issues.. or social issues. since he seems to overly sensative about the issue I don't think it is just lazziness. He needs a medical evaluation.
Something is really wrong with him.Cause by age 11 he should be wiping his own behind.Maybe he doesn't like the feel of TP on his butt.They do have wipes for adults that they can wipe thier butt.And his parents don't care thier son is walking around smelling like poo you need to call someone.Like CPS.Cause that isn't right.If my kid did smelled like poo all day and they were at that age I would of had them at the doctor office right away.
i say leave it be it is his a s s and if he wants to be stanky than let him!
give him a good spanking. yell at him. let him cry, don't let him take control. obviously being nice isn't going to work
oh mine!!! thts disgusting...





try explaining him ...wht impact it gives to others...





ask him why he doesnt clean?





if he doesnt like using tissue papers...then try giving him an alternative of using wet tissues!!!!





just ask him his problem!!!...tell him the things..wich normally mum teaches us when we learn hw to do things!!!
can he swim?
i know you're trying to help, but his parents are going to have to be the ones to take care of this. aren't they concerned or ever around?
EWWWWWWWWWWW THAT IS A MAJOR PROBLEM!! SRY BUT MY BROTHER'S HAVE MUCH BETTER CONTROL!! GET HELP!! I MEAN NOWWWW!
Take his nasty behind outside and hose him down with the garden hose! No for real this kid has issues,maybe he has a medical problem that he won't talk about, like it hurts him to wipe. he could have something going on there or he's just in a hurry to go back to what ever he was doing. What does your boyfriend say,better yet, what does his parents say? Poor kid someboby needs to help him, take his dirty a** to a doctor.
doestn he have a mother ?? whycant she help him ,maybe the poor kid has a problem that need to be addressed .
he need counceling. get him there now!!
His parents need to take responsibility for this kid - not you.





However, don't yell at the kid, that definitely doesn't help as you have already discovered and if he smells then put distance between you and him. You can't solve his problem but you can change how you react to it - ignore it and back away from him, that's all YOU can do.