Christians; Need some advice about a problem with a friend?

Ok well to start off I'm a christian and I have this problem with a friend that has reached a point where he won't talk to me anymore. He's christian too but doesn't go to church anymore. I've done my part in terms of trying to talk to him and telling him I'm sorry but he just doesn't want to hear it. So I've just let him be for the time being.





My problem is that I feel like crap. We are both in college and he was the friend who was there. We were like brothers and now that he's not there I just feel alone and hurting. Don't get me wrong I have plenty of other friends in college but I don't share anywhere near the same bond I did with him. And my home is 3 hours away so I can't just go back all the time and be with my family and close friends. So I guess my question is, how do I cope with these negative feelings while I am here at school. Basically I just want some good christian advice. Thanks.Christians; Need some advice about a problem with a friend?
Is there a Christian ministry on campus you can get involved in? I'm involved with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship at my university, and they're a great group of people. There may be a chapter on your campus too. Check their website to find out: http://www.intervarsity.org





If you have done all you can to truly and humbly apologize to him, there is really not much else to do at this point. He must forgive you, and you can't force him to do that. It's tough, but you should definitely meet some new people (see my previous paragraph) who will be there to support you. Give your problems to God in prayer and worship. In time, he will make things right, or give you peace, or whatever is in His will... but I know that he will not abandon you or leave you hurting!Christians; Need some advice about a problem with a friend?
The best of friends will have arguments and problems. Even Jesus said for one moment, ';Father, why have you abandoned Me?'; So don't freak out, it's perfectly natural. Pray for him first off. Having no clue what actally began this problem, all I can say is probably leave off a little bit and don't be on top of him or anything.


God bless
Pray and fast, go to God before anyone else. Remember that you are a child of the Most High, ';A broken and contrite heart I will not abandon.'; Maybe he took what happened too seriously, pray for God to reveal the situation in depth and to touch his heart.
Pray!! Pray to The Father. Pray to Jesus. Pray to the Holy Spirit for Wisdom, Understanding, Right Judgment, and Counsel. Pray for your friend, He needs Jesus more than ever.
Just pray and don't confront him about it. Remember the the son that took his fortune from his father and left and came back to him one day? Pray and maybe one day he will come back to his friendship and you will forgive him.
pray pray pray!!! spend time in God's prescence and meditate on His words. I'm sorry I feel your pain, and think of Christ his very disciples left him in his most dire need. I feel the pain Jesus does too!!!! virtual hugs!! %26gt;%26lt; and I feel really bad for you cause I'm a Christian teen and I know the pains of school when people tend to pick on your beliefs. BUT we must think of the positive-the friends you have now geta really deep bond with them now maybe God wants you to get a stronger bond with another friend.
Just give it time. U apologized im sure after he calms down and has time to think, things will get better.
This is a difficult time for you, but it won't last. Read Ecc. 3:1-9. Hope this helps.


God bless.
Hi! If you have done everything within your power to try and resolve this conflict between you and him, then ask the Lord to convict his heart. Have you offended him? Ask for forgiveness right away! If he still does not respond, give it to the Lord and let go. God will find a way to enlighten this person and show this person that forgiveness is vital to the Christian walk. Just continue to pray for this person. Even if he does not want to reconcile the friendship between you two, you have done all you can do to resolve this. The Lord will bless you. I hope this helps! Peace!
the first 5 or 6 answers are pretty on the target ... I have been through just what you are talking about, and it is very hard.. but, as suggested by many, pray and let God handle it at this point... If you have done all you can do, then the rest is out of your hands made of flesh.. And, as a person of an , ummm, more mature age, this does happen in life.... Some times friendships and relationships serve the purpose intended and life moves on.... I believe that in our lives, each and every person that passes through is sent for a reason, and that is to gain knowledge of something.... and even in pain and heart break there is knowledge.... look for the lesson, learn it, remember it !!!!!!! go in peace.... God bless
It actually sounds to me like perhaps you DID something to cause your friend anger. If this is the case, you need to ask to be shown how to make this right again... and when the answer comes... DO IT. This may go a long way to a friendship restoration.





If you've done this, you've done all you can do. All that is left to do is pray for your friend, pray for strength to endure while your friend is angry, pray for God to burden your friend with forgiving you... and above all, pray that God's will be done on the matter.
Some friendships just pass their sell-by. Happens a lot with men. Let it go, find some new friends.





If you still feel there's some life in your friendship, think what else kept you together apart from church and try to meet or chat around that. And he's off church, find out positively what he IS interested in now, and see if you can share that.





If you feel like crap because one relationship has gone cold on you, that could suggest it was a bit obsessive? I only ask because I had friendships like that when I was your age.
Your friend obviously needs a lesson in forgiveness. If we want to be forgiven by god we must forgive others. Never quit praying for your friend,but it sounds as if he is backing away in his devotion to Christ. It is hard when we are close to someone and loose that relationship. But as a man of God who will be used greatly in the Kingdom you have to be careful as to not get to soulishly tied to anyone. (soul=mind,will,emotions)


You may be entering a new level in God amd must stay connected to only those God has connected you to spiritually!


I'm not saying this is for sure the case. This person could be a spiritual connection and the enemy is attacking w separation?


Pray about it. If God reveals to u that He is not to remain your friend be willing to let go. Being devoted to Christ is not always easy. It sometimes requires great sacrifice.


Draw close to God during this time. Maybe you have depended too much on this friend and this time of separation will help you to redefine your friendship and reconciliation will happen later on?


I feel you have a great call on your life so don't give up! Stay connected to the body. The pain will get easier and you will heal. My prayers are w you!


Get closer to your brother in the natural. He very much wants this. Allow God to clear out hte misunderstandings and jealousies of the past!






Build Friendship Through Prayer





5 Would you like Jehovah to think of you as his friend? He spoke of the patriarch Abraham in that way. (Isaiah 41:8; James 2:23) Jehovah wants us to develop that sort of relationship with him. He actually invites us to draw close to him. (James 4:8) Should not that invitation make us reflect on the unique provision of prayer? How difficult it is to obtain an appointment to speak to an important government official, let alone become his friend! Yet, the Creator of the universe encourages us to approach him freely in prayer, whenever we want or need to do so. (Psalm 37:5) Our incessant prayers help us to have a close friendship with Jehovah.





6 How easily, though, we can neglect prayer! Just dealing with pressures of everyday life can absorb so much of our attention that we do not make an effort to speak to God. Jesus encouraged his disciples to “pray continually,” and he himself did that. (Matthew 26:41) Though he invariably found himself busy from morning to night, he set aside time to talk to his heavenly Father. Sometimes, Jesus got up “early in the morning, while it was still dark,” in order to pray. (Mark 1:35) On other occasions, he retired to a lonely place at the end of the day in order to talk to Jehovah. (Matthew 14:23) Jesus always made time to pray, and so should we.—1 Peter 2:21.





7 Appropriate moments for private prayer present themselves many times each day as we face problems, encounter temptations, and make decisions. (Ephesians 6:18) When we seek God’s guidance in all aspects of life, our friendship with him is certain to grow. If two friends face problems together, does not the bond of friendship between them become stronger? (Proverbs 17:17) The same is true when we lean on Jehovah and experience his help.—2 Chronicles 14:11.





8 How glad we can be that God puts no limit on how long or how often we may talk to him in prayer! Nehemiah quickly uttered a silent prayer before making a petition to the king of Persia. (Nehemiah 2:4, 5) Jesus also offered a brief prayer when he requested that Jehovah give him the power to resurrect Lazarus. (John 11:41, 42) Hannah, on the other hand, “prayed extendedly before Jehovah” when she poured out her heart to him. (1 Samuel 1:12, 15, 16) Our personal prayers can be brief or lengthy according to the need and the circumstances.





9 Many prayers in the Bible express heartfelt appreciation for Jehovah’s supreme position and his wonderful works. (Exodus 15:1-19; 1 Chronicles 16:7-36; Psalm 145) In a vision, the apostle John sees the 24 elders—the complete number of anointed Christians in their heavenly position—praise Jehovah, saying: “You are worthy, Jehovah, even our God, to receive the glory and the honor and the power, because you created all things, and because of your will they existed and were created.” (Revelation 4:10, 11) We too have reason to praise the Creator regularly. How happy parents feel when their child thanks them from the heart for something they have done for him! Reflecting appreciatively on Jehovah’s kindnesses and expressing our heartfelt gratitude for them is a fine way to improve the quality of our prayers.