Advice about marriage problem please?

What do you do if you don't fancy your husband? I haven't had a good night sleep for years, because he won't loose weight to help the terrible snoring. He's not that keen on showering. For years our sex life has consisted of 2 minutes of sex. No foreplay, then when it's over for him it's over for me too. We have been over and over the same conversation about these issues for years. When he actually made an effort to please me not long ago, I found I felt 'dead' of feeling and emotion. I didn't tell him this, so as not to discourage him. Then the next time, it was back to the usual again. His bad habits are putting me off him, but I don't want to feel this way, but all his promises to change never last long. I make an effort to always look nice and he still really fancies me and loves me very much, but he can't can he.?Advice about marriage problem please?
Why did you marry him then? Has he always been like this or haven't you noticed. Maybe he is in that 'comfort zone'. Give him an ultimatum, shower and lose weight or he will be receiving divorce papers soon. If he loves you like you think, he CAN change. For God sake, at least he can shower!!Advice about marriage problem please?
This is the same thing that happens when a woman has her man. Then the man looses interest because the wife doesn't on up to what she use to be in appearance.


He is either depressed or he's old and satisfied.
Seek counseling
Why did you marry him?
Counseling is an option. Sometimes it helps to put the problems out there in front of another person who is unbiased. Also sometimes partners can feeling like you're just bickering and complaining when you're communicating feelings to them directly. I say sort it out with someone who can help you communicate your feelings better.
There's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes people from all walks of life just have a hard time expressing themselves continuously especially Men in a marriage where affection calls.





All ladies need assurance that their Man loves them and it's something you cannot turn off.


Marriage %26amp; Love is like a river that flows constantly never going dry.





The Man must learn how to flow like the river and all the problems will be solved, but when a Man drys up he turns to dust and the love and the marriage becomes a haven for two people that grow to hate one another rather than love.





You have done nothing wrong and your just as sweet now as you were when you got married...it's he that must find his path.
Take those conversations to the next level - marriage counseling. If you spend the time and work at it via counseling and it doesn't work out - you can leave knowing that you gave it one last try...
As you said, you have been having this conversation for years now and he has not changed much or at all or the change does not last for long. I thing he need to hear it from someone elses mouth. You need to take this matter to counseling, so he can hear it from someone who has no interest in the relationship. Because he hears it from you all the time and thing that you are nagging. He need to know how you feel. And that you are hurt in the process. If you what your marriage to work, you must take that step to let and out sider talk to him.





I wish you all the luck.
I had the same problem. I assume you don't want a divorce, so let's tackle what you can do to make life better. Personally, I bought twin beds and put them across the room from each other. Now I don't have to smell the unshowered man, and the snoring doesn't bother me as much. I also don't have that big guy rolling over on top of me.


The sex is trickier. I would recommend you try ';marital aids'; and learn to please yourself. Reading erotica may help also. If you are already excited, 2 minutes could be enough. Once you have enough sleep and ease your sexual frustration, you will be able to see his better qualities.


He can love you very much and not be able to change himself. You need to change what you need from him, and appreciate what he does for you. I speak from personal experience.
Hi there. Sorry to hear that he hasn't made any effort to change those things. Part of loving someone on his part is caring enough about your feelings that he would stop any offensive behavior, and/or start doing things you like. Yes, counseling is good, or an alternative is perhaps seek to have an ';open relationship'; where you are free to explore other sex partners. I haven't done it personally, but have heard it can actually help a marriage, but I would only see about doing that after you've strengthened your commitment to him and after he's made changes to where you WANT to be with him personally and sexually. Otherwise, you are just running from your situation. Counseling definately sounds in order, but he also needs to wake up and take responsibility for his wife not being happy.